Insight: as I get older I come to experience the energy of my father, as well as that of my mother, realizing that I am (at the experiential level) very much what they were at an energetic level.
When we honour them, we accept our very energy... Even when they conflict and seem to have a life of their own.
People who have not made peace with their parents, can not be at peace with themselves, because they are fighting their own energy.