Being natural

Feel the "i am" feeling. Stay with it. It is already there. You already can feel it. It is already you.

Don't add to it. Don't make a story about it. Don't embelish it with any idea, any religion. Just stay with it. When thoughts come watch them from this feeling place. The more you remain in it, the more it will become your natural state.

But there is an even easier way...

Go to the place that requires no effort. It's a place of isness-- a place of beingness.

Mooji

The idea of a perfect marriage

It seems to me that if you keep trying to change your partner, and that you never give up, you will never melt into one being.

If you can give up wanting to be right, then a perfect match can indeed be had. When your partner speaks from their world, in their terms, with their baggage you allow it fully, not resisting, not hoping to change their view, not arguing in your mind why your view is more correct. 

Instead you recognize their baggage, as you recognize your own. When the mind wants you to compare the two, you recognize it and simply drop the impulse to compare, as you know it is a separation device. Choose instead to see life as it is. 

The ego wants to see the world in terms of "me" vs "you". All mental positions and arguments are simply to create a more improved self image. 

Who are you without a self image? --ah, one with your partner, and one with everyone.