These are personal notes and links regarding the dissolution of one's Self-Image --i.e. one's ego. The path is non-duality. Life itself has brought me here. These notes are reminders of my direction, and my lack of direction. They are to strengthen my focus on what ACIM calls "the real world" i.e. "that which does not change." While these notes are written for me, if you find them helpful, you may feel at home to read any of them.
Being natural
The idea of a perfect marriage
It seems to me that if you keep trying to change your partner, and that you never give up, you will never melt into one being.
If you can give up wanting to be right, then a perfect match can indeed be had. When your partner speaks from their world, in their terms, with their baggage you allow it fully, not resisting, not hoping to change their view, not arguing in your mind why your view is more correct.
Instead you recognize their baggage, as you recognize your own. When the mind wants you to compare the two, you recognize it and simply drop the impulse to compare, as you know it is a separation device. Choose instead to see life as it is.
The ego wants to see the world in terms of "me" vs "you". All mental positions and arguments are simply to create a more improved self image.
Who are you without a self image? --ah, one with your partner, and one with everyone.